You forgot "Respect yourself and don't settle for being treated with disrespect."
If the woman in your example respected him and respected herself she would never tolerate the life she's living.
Absolutely...you are correct. There is a postscript to this story. The husband had an affair with another woman in our circle of friends. It was scandalous. They both left their spouses, but after one day, the woman came to her senses and went back to her husband...having no place to go, the ex-lapder went back to his wife who TOOK HIM BACK! Can you imagine? Any respect or empathy I had for the wife was gone...I figured they deserved each other but I did not want any of them in my life. So it goes...