TO WOMEN: How to Build A lasting Relationship

1/20/08 | bear_slayer

[ctdonath2]

‘What are you thinking?’ Female here. I was still a teenager when I asked my first long-term boyfriend that a few times and was astounded, I mean completely flabbergasted, to find out that often he wasn’t really thinking of anything at all.

A friend is fond of addressing that point with:

If you ask what I'm thinking, and I say "nothing", I really do mean it! There truly is nothing going on upstairs at the time. Really: nothing is going on in there! Sometimes - often - I am merely existing, which often happens without further contemplation.

[HIDEK6]

She’s quite unlike any I’ve ever met before.

Just a wild guess: You're not married to her yet, right?

[Hildy]

I’m gonna catch heat for this, but I CAN’T STAND WOMEN WHO CRY. It’s manipulative. Period. It’s not gonna going to get better for you, my friend...

[ctdonath2]

Both are required reading.

[scan59]

Ping for later reference. (Great thread!)

[LucyJo]

I really don't watch much T.V., but I do know that The View is a talk show that Barbara Walters started.

I read about the big brouhaha when Rosie O'D. was there.

Barbara gets on my last nerve, and I can't stomach Rosie O'D., so I've never been interested in it.

[Bear_Slayer]

Can I wait for the movie?

[Nea Wood]

The whole “does this outfit make me look fat” may be entirely based on an honest dialogue but all too often it is based in a valid female fear that the woman’s primary attractiveness to a man is not her mind and character—but instead the outside.

I agree with you. We women are under constant pressure to be thin, young, busty and beautiful. We're made to feel worthless if we're not. All men have to do in reply to the "does this make me look fat" questions are reassure their wives that they find them beautiful. Is that so difficult?

[ctdonath2]

Compromise: get the audiobook.

[a real Sheila]

My question-
How do I get my hubby to do that to ME?!!!

[Psycho_Bunny]

Well, I don't think you should catch heat for it:  I understand that woman are more in touch with their emotions than men, so a good cry once a month or so is ok in my book.  I can handle that.

And any decent man should be able to handle it.

My girlfriend is actually mentally ill, I think.  She can cry two or three times in an afternoon, literally.  And I'm talking about over nothing.  It's so bad that I remember the dates where she doesn't cry. 

In the first six months of our relationship, she cried every single time we got together.  Initially, I just wrote it off to her somewhat recent divorce but now I've realized she's just what I call an emosturbator - someone who masturbates their emotions.

[ctdonath2]

“No, but that box of bon-bons does.”

[a real Sheila]

Please let me know when you do!
I’d like to add to it.

[Bear_Slayer]

You know how warriors psyche themselves out for war? The work themselves into a frenzy so that they can run at and attack an enemy across an open battlefield.

I watch The View to prepare myself for work.

[Bear_Slayer]

All us freeper men are waiting in line to assist you.

[ArrogantBustard]

she's just what I call an emosturbator

ROFL!!!! Perfect term for it.

nitially, I just wrote it off to her somewhat recent divorce

Hmmmmmm ...

[Bear_Slayer]

I’ll send you a ping.

[Freeport]

Does she have a sister????!

[najida]

Please do (I’ll help)

For the time being, this thread gets sent to the “Wimmen R’Evil” archive.

[a real Sheila]

“...Initially, I just wrote it off to her somewhat recent divorce..”

Aha!

Avoid the “recently divorced” like the plague.