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We have a very strict policy in our household when it comes to drinking. Our two teenage daughters understand it because we review before they go out. Every time. They repeat it back to us.

It involves giving up their social life (phones, computers, teams, stepping out of the house, boyfriends) for 60 days the first time. 90 days the second time. And for the remainder of the school year (or the entire summer.)

The only way they can reduce the sentence is to tell us who got them the liquor so we can call the police and their parents (in that order.)

This program was established after we caught our first daughter drinking schnaps with some friends on the first night of their winter vacation.

I was appalled at the response of other parents. Most did nothing.

I am happy to say that my kids have been called by other kids in trouble, because they knew OUR kids werent drinking. They also knew that they could count on our kids, and us-as parents-to take care of them when they got into trouble somewhere. That is the best part of this.

I am also appalled at the stories of the boys getting the girls drunk and then getting all sexual with them. Believe me, I tugged at my share of blouses when I was fifteen—but these boys are unbelieable.

The first night of the Christmas vacation, a group of boys lifted a bottle of vodka from their absent parents, gave a group of girls seven shots apiece, pawed at them, and when the girls started passing out and throwing up, they ran away.

My daughter got called and she went to the scene with one of her girlfriends and her dad. One kid had been left, passed out in the snow, without a coat on. She spent the Sunday before Christmas in the hospital getting IVs to warm her up.

The parents of the boy’s said, (and I quote) “Boys will be boys.”

Two of the girls remain grounded. Two were out the next night.

Its a lot more than “just” drinking.