Be of good cheer: most of us in the blackboard sciences (mathematics, theoretical physics, mathematical economics, computer science . . .) could be diagnosed with Asperger’s if we were dumb enough to submit to a psych eval.
The fact your daughter was diagnosed says more about your ex than about your daughter: she wanted to pathologize social awkwardness.
It's not like these guys are all hanging off the curtain rods hooting. As you said, those in the blackboard sciences do stand a good chance of an Aspberger's Syndrome diagnosis ~ and that's while having a good time in the cafeteria whooping it up over a slimjim and a slurpy.
On the other hand Becker and others have noted regardless of the chemical theories of depression, that depressives are overly embedded and concerned about their family and associates.
The above approach seems to be replicated by people with widely different views as to the cause of these major mental syndromes. The descriptions seem more existential than explanatory.
My Daughter was never diagnosed.