Once, again. Feelings over reason. Proving my point (and tossing in a "whiny" accusation to further make my point).
BTW, I don't have the power to "make" anyone "feel" anything unless I've been granted that power. I learned that in cognitive therapy. True, couples invest trust in one another and a caring partner should not abuse that trust but I can't "make" her trust me any more than I can "make" her feel insulted. She has to come to that conclusion herself.
Some women (typically more than men) use the "make me feel" crutch as a way of changing the dynamics of an argument from fact-based to feelings-based, most often employed because they are losing the fact-based side of the argument. Using the phrase "make me feel" is a nice trick to endow victimhood on the feeler, as if the feeler had no possible choice but to feel that way and cast the blame on the other party.
When the argument is moved from reason to feelings, the man is now on the woman's home turf because she can then declare whatever feeling puts her at the best advantage. The man could then argue the facts until the cows come home and she will declare all of that irrelevent and less important than her feelings. Next, if the man hasn't yet surrendered to her all-important "feelings", she will lob a series of baseless accusations so the man has to waste his time defending his intentions which often had nothing to do with the original disagreement.
As I said, you are proving my point much more completely than you even realize. Thank you for illustrating that so that others here may see.
Now, you are free to respond by calling me a jerk, so you can feel better about the argument you just lost.
Boy Tall Texan, if you have all that figured out, you’d think you’d be able to outwit us tricksy emotion-wielding wimmin. ;~)
Thats a little bit more deep that I usually go but, yeah.
Hell yeah. Hear Hear!
Woman calls man an idiot:
Woman is independent, man is respectful (see whipped). Makes a good sitcom.
Man calls woman an idiot:
Woman is battered, man is a bully chauvinist pig. Man should be locked up.