You are wrong.
Anyone who structures disagreements such that giving an accurate description of bad behavior constitutes "insulting and belittling" is practicing emotional blackmail. "Emotion" is not common ground on which men and women can meet.
Anything that involves more than one person pursuing their own interests must involve right, wrong, and logic, because it's the only truly fair language to forge agreements.
Word salad with a heavy dose of bitter dressing on it.