[gitmo]

Separation from the woman who gave you birth is a wound. Some children --- like my son--- were wounded by chance. No child should be wounded by choice.

Agreed. My two sons both know their birth mothers. They experienced a little pain. The two birth mothers have experienced a lot. Adoption is making the best of a bad situation. Surrogate pregnancy is paying someone to undergo pain on your behalf.

[Mrs. Don-o]

"Adoption is making the best of a bad situation. Surrogate pregnancy is paying someone to undergo pain on your behalf.'

Exactly, gitmo. The "surrogate" contract means intentionally structuring the situation so that the baby and the birthmother both suffer the premeditated severing of attachment in order for you to get what you want.

It's astounding that this could be legal when buying and selling babies is rightly considered criminal in every country in the world.

It's the aforethought, deliberate planning of this fractured situation is what makes the huge moral difference. It seems so few people understand that. But let's keep telling them til they get it.

[don-o]

My two sons both know their birth mothers.

How has that worked out? I pretty much rejected that as an option when we were in the process. My thinking was (and is) that kids do have their moments when the wish that they had anyone else for parents, except Mom and Dad (at least I remember thinking that.)

So, why introduce that reality "You aren't my real mother. You can't tell me what to do."