I am not judging you. I hope that you get what is right in your case. All people who are involved in a divorce are hurt. I lost 2 children and my childhood home in a divorce in 1978. I paid child support for 15 years. I really have no relationship with them now and I have a 1 year old granddaughter that I have seen 2 times. There are so many things screwed up in the divorce industry. The average man has no chance of getting justice.
I raised my kids as near alone as one can do when the father is right in the house, but has NOTHING to do with them. He admits this. I raised them by myself. But now the kids are getting some attention for the first time in their lives from dad and they want it. He does it so he can pump them for info about me, but they only know how it feels to have dad actually talk to them.
And in one case, I’m out. And my grandbabies. I miss them so much. yesterday I called up there anyway and they sang Jingle Bells to me. Three times through. And Santa Claus is Coming to Town. I just listened and cried. 2 years old.
Well, i said i’d give up anything to do what i was going to do. and i have. For once i had a different priority. And boy am I paying for it.