Many “tell” when they don’t want to keep their military obligation.
Sailor falls in love with a member of the opposite sex: Too bad, write ‘em a letter.
Faggot falls in love: Unsuitability discharge.
See my post #42.
In the first Gulf War....about three days before I got to King Fahd Air Base...the two guys on back-gate guard duty at the base camp...were found behind the guard shack at about 0100 in the morning....having sex. The Major who discovered the two characters...took them in the vehicle out to the runway...got the commander to sign immediate orders...and by 0700, they were on a plane returning to the US...facing a court martial for failure to carry out orders (they were the sole guards for the entire rear of the camp). It amazed me...that these two characters didn’t grasp the significance of their duty.