I downloaded the two .wmv debate videos from CNN.com, and spent a long time trying to find this moment by fast-forwarding the video - now I know why I missed it. CNN took it out of the videos on cnn.com as well.
Here is the whole exchange with the gay “general”
(youtube video embedded)
http://www.townhall.com/blog/g/d91f3cba-6a87-4686-92ce-70a16edc311b
I also saw the downloaded version from CNN and wondered why I didn’t see what everyone else was talking about - it was laying in the bit bucket.