Here’s what I swore before God and before my family on a summer day 4 years ago:
“I, N. N., take thee, N. N., for my lawful wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.”
Till Death do us part. I vowed that before God. Now how I can nice and easy slide out of that solemn vow based on some Johnny-come-lately misinterpretation of “covenant theology”?
This ain’t no religion thread, so I’ll stop there. But if you want to post something over there, I’d be happy to respond.
Perhaps if you want to quote theology in your vows you would ponder Christ message telling us to now promise anything under heaven and earth but rather let your yes mean yes and your no mean no. The reason He stated not to make promises is because as humans, we are imperfect and control very little in this universe. I am glad it seems you have a healthy relationship. For those of us who don’t it doesn’t mean we don’t embrace the character and example of God to love unconditionally. But that also doesn’t mean you have to stay married and co-inhabit the same space when you are abused for years.
I am no sissy, but you obviously did not marry a Latino fire brand with mental issues of violence and disrespect to you. If you did, your Romeo and Juliet philosophy of your spouse might be radically different. That said, I wish you all the best and don’t mean to sound bitter. More like grieved I guess that no matter what I have tried to do, I can’t save her. And it is a choice with my spouse, she has issues but is very different say when we got seperated for a year when I was going to leave permanently the first time. Should have stayed gone.