It’s simply a pendulum swung to far on a good idea. And yes, you do sound like someone who got bitch-slapped in a NFD.
I remember the ‘bad’ ole days before NFD, when bad things were ignored because folks knew they could get away with it. The. ‘shame’ of divorce was too great. When lots of nasty things got swept under the rug to keep up appearances. No one wanted to go through an ugly public, name calling divorce.
My father got custody of my half-sister in his divorce— because he had that much clout, and his first wife just didn’t want to go through the hell the man could dish out.
My Mom didn’t divorce him because she really believed he’d get custody of all of us. His first divorce was legend.
So yeah, maybe 50 years ago, divorce was more on the mans side, maybe now it’s more on the womans.
The goal should be to just make it fair and civil for all sides.
Anyhow, the premise is good and I’d hate to see it go back to the horror it was before.