Well, the boys have taken their cues from the girls. You don't act like a lady, you don't get treated like one. Have no expectations and the boys will accommodate you.
The young men of 50 years ago had the same hormones, the same testosterone, the same desires......and yet they bought the corsages and opened the doors for their dates, and walked them to their front doors. Why don't they do that anymore?
Because they know they don't have to, and they'll still get laid.
...and yet they bought the corsages and opened the doors for their dates, and walked them to their front doors. Why don’t they do that anymore?
Hey, I do all of that!
Of course I’m about 40 years old...
I think you hit the nail on the head.
Even 35 years ago, I dated my future wife in this way. When my sons started dating, I instructed them, as did my wife, in how they should act.
One thing they learned the hard way was that I would brook no disrespect to their mother in my presence or out of my presence. They were talking to my wife, and no one disrespects her in any way.
I’ve have told them to marry a girl who is just like their mother, with her qualities. They tell me about the girls today, and I remind them not to sink to that level. The right girl is out there, and if she is not readily apparent yet, that is no excuse for you to be and act like an animal.
My daughter also has high standards. Our rule was—if a boy wants to takes you out, he meets me first. I want to meet him, talk with him, find out some things about him and set the time line for returning my daughter to my house. She is my daughter, not his plaything.
Dads, don’t let society tell you that you can not set the ground rules. It’s your job. Your daughters and sons secretly want you to. If you don’t, then don’t be disappointed when they rise to the level you set.
That's part of it.
However, the blame is not entirely on the girls. We guys should treat all females with the same respect and dignity that would otherwise be accorded to our mothers and our sisters, irrespective of how the girls are acting. It's part of being a gentleman.
And most of the blame lies at the feet of parents who don't teach (by example) their children how to act as ladies and gentlemen.
sigh.... sad but true I’m afraid.