Ever been on a missions trip?
Ever been on a sports team?
If you want to walk into either situation with your agenda, and giving the pastor or coach a ration of crap when you are told that “we are doing ____ now”, you will probably (and should) find yourself in a situation when you get every chance to work your own agenda and no one is around to hear your brilliant ideas.
For that matter, try acting like the boss and/or telling your boss “no” a few times today and see where that gets ya...
You have no idea why I posted what I did. Your series of condescending questions scream that loud and clear.