[Bruinator]

COrrection:

A child cannot rationalize her statement about getting nothing back. But as an adult, we are supposed to do good deeds not to get anything back. We do it for love, and we do it for others. If I was to donate to charity or adopt to make myself feel good, there is no point in doing it, because those who would benefit would not benefit. Only I would. Selfish people have no concept of what it is to be selfless

[cajunhornet58]

My Sister In law and her husband adopted Gabe 24 years ago; 7 of which Gabe has spent in Prisons. From the time this boy could walk it was obvious to the family he had serious mental problems; to which my sister in law turned a deaf ear. Starting in elementary school the kid was expelled from I have lost count of how many schools. Parochial schools and “discipline” schools were tried; the boy was just no Good; stealing; cursing his mother calling her every name under the sun and every kind of drug use.. One of our first memories of Gabe was his trying to put a lighted match in our gas tank at a family gathering. Several shrinks were tried and medications along with rydilin were tried. The boy seemed to like to start fires and either kill or torture animals. His crowning achievement was almost 6 years ago our parents (Gabes Grandparents) were killed in a headon wreck. 2 day later while we had our parents in the local funeral home; Gabe burgularized their home stealing every thing he could with the gange he hung around with. Gabe made one bad mistake; he stole my Parents Dillards charge card; and took his friends to Dillards and ran up $2000 in charged; BUT the security cam captured. Gabe was sentenced to 7 years for this burgulary; and he has gotten out on parole THREE times; broke Parole and was sent back to prison. I hate to say it; but Gabe’s adopted parents SAW his behaviour and turned a blind eye to it. Had they addressed his problems with real concern; the boy woul be instutionalized in a Mental hospital. Beware the Pitfalls; there are some really seriously mentally ill children out there awaiting adoption; heed the warning signs.

[CRO7690]

I guess what really breaks my heart is a lot of the things that she had problems with are typical teens. They do pick with their siblings, they do test boundries, that is what they do. Anyone that has one child doesn't get the see the "joy"; of the multiple children things are just different. If you have one child you KNOW who did it, Multiple it is always someone else. That little girl wanted her Mom and who could blame her, it is a big transition and realization that she was not coming back. I also think her birth daughter was in the prime time for friction to start the teen age year can be rough. I feel so bad for that little girl and hope she finds a loving adoptive home but it will be difficult because she feels she is expensible and in part that is Julies fault, although I think she just doesn't get it. I really think they were on the brink of what could have been wonderful.

[kia78]

it was a very selfish thing for the foster mother to do. children who are strippped of their familes have emotional issues and can not be resolved over nite!! my siblings and i were all in foster care,because of the illness of our mother. three girls and two boys. myslef and my sisters were all given back becuase the foster families felt as if we were to much to deal with not realizing what they had gotten themselves into.none of us were babies and were very aware of what was going on. that mother has made a very huge negative impact on that little girls life and should never ever be able to be anyone’s foster mother!! GOD help own child and her... she should be ashmed of herslef to think that a child can change over nite. she should had more patience with the child .