I’m black. I don’t use the word. I have heard it used by my folk before disparingly and “affectionately”. We need to stop using it if we want others to. But believe me, it is a hateful word.
I don’t think that there is any effort being made by the young black community to stop using the word. Certainly not by the rap “stars” or comics.
In fact, the only time I hear it used in person is by young black people. I also hear white kids being called cracker and snowflake, but damn it to hell they better not return the favor or they might get Jenna sixed!