I've argued the same thing in various threads and have always been attacked for saying what you're saying. If the right people find this thread, you'll be accused of buying into the gay lifestyle merely by using the word "gay" instead of "pervert." Not only that, but your religious faith will be called into question because accepting a struggling gay somehow means that you are accepting their lifestyle.
I was involved peripherally in the music industry when I was younger (I played keyboards in a band) and got to know a lot of gays. Almost all were miserable in their lifestyle and every single one who opened up to me had either been molested as a child or had a real or perceived lack of emotional or physical relationship with their father when they were growing up. I've heard some very, very sad stories.
Every church should be reaching out to gays and should especially be reaching out to those with AIDs. Not only that, we should help them with their struggle and not require them to become perfect before letting them into the church. Almost everyone has struggled with some besetting sin yet, for some reason, many churches will help people struggling with any sin except for the sin of homosexuality. People will rush in to help anyone struggling with alcohol, drug addiction, past abortions, marital infidelity, or pornography. Yet those same people will run from someone struggling with homosexuality.