As for “utterly pejorative words”, time was many of those same words could be said in polite society and noone would bat an eyelash. Calling an African American “black” at one time was “progressive. An “coloured person” is verboten. Now a “person of colour” is en vogue
But if the Anglicans don’t mind who am I to say otherwise?
You're dead wrong on that. I don't know how old you are, but I'm on the shady side of 50, and my maternal grandmother (born 1895) would NEVER have used such words, and they were NOT acceptable in polite society, EVER.
She was a D.A.R., white-glove-and-pearls, Southern Lady. No well-bred person would have used such language in her generation, my mother's generation, or mine. It just was not done.