Let him pay. Let her pay.
If it were just one case, I’d agree. Exceptions are bad things to make laws over. However, this sort of thing is happening way too frequently. Too many men are having their lives ruined through no fault of their own. It’s not right for someone to have to pay for someone else’s irresponsibility or crime.
As a woman, I’m saying the women should take responsibility for their own actions. Let who plays, pay.
We have already done so...these laws when passed assumed that husbands had absolute control over their wives and families, and therefore were to blame by not being "mindful." Now, because of the changes in societal attitudes and laws, that's considered stalking, harassment, and domestic abuse.
It's a scam to expect men to adhere to traditional notions of responsibility, when we don't expect women to.