“Out of curiosity, why do you call a woman that purposely endangers a child stupid”
That comment was made during a discussion about women who shack up with abusive men - then mommy’s new boyfriend damages the children. dumb dumb dumb.
And if a man brought home a girlfriend who was hurting the children, I would say the same thing...dumb dumb dumb.
“How many husbands have you ever heard get off of a murder charge because they were overwrought? Shall we start counting the number of women that have gotten off or very light sentences for killing their husband and/or children?”
I didn’t realize that was the topic.
The op referred to the fact that parents want their children to be more careful about contact with men.
I think that is because parents are most afraid of kidnap, rape, and murder.
Most of these types of crimes are committed by men.
I have NOT stated that most men are predators.
I WILL state that most men are good guys.
Most of these parents are not ignorant of the nature of the boyfriend/girlfriend, to me that's not dumb, its callous and willful.
I didn’t realize that was the topic. The op referred to the fact that parents want their children to be more careful about contact with men.
Its definitely connected. The Ted Bundy model of an outwardly normal man being a serial rapist murderer is very rare. Most abusers and rapists are much easier to spot. Although a whole other discussion could be had on why so many women are blind to what fellow men can see (same reversing the sexes). Yet a woman that drowns her children is thought have a hormone imbalance. Perhaps its just self-protection, not wanting to believe that women are so capable.
I think that is because parents are most afraid of kidnap, rape, and murder. Most of these types of crimes are committed by men.
And the vast majority of men would put themselves at great physical risk to stop them.
But let me tell you a couple of many stories.
1. I was new in a neighborhood and saw a toddler walking down the street unattended (before cell phones). My first thought was for the child's safety, but my second was that I didn't want to go to jail after a screaming frantic mother "caught me" holding her toddler. I walked along with the toddler at a distance, ready to keep him from danger, until I heard the mother start screaming hysterically. I yelled back to her and she came running. She then stared at me, grabbed the child, and ran off like I was a wolf. If I had been holding the child, I'm sure I would have been talking to the police, and if the mother didn't want to admit to poor supervision, I would have been arrested, and my life as a Naval Officer over.
2. I've been coaching my girls in soccer for eleven seasons, and I have a great time with the kids, as well as a great reputation with the league. The other day, a younger sibling of one of my players gave my leg a bear hug. The mother reacted as if I was a known pedophile.
There is a big difference between teaching children that they need to be careful in certain situations, and teaching them that they should treat every man as an abuser/rapist just because you can't be too safe.