The thing most people really don’t want to talk about: The best way to avoid out of wedlock births and the usually resulting ‘poverty’ is to abstain from sex until marriage. (And to exercise your thinking capabilities and not just your emotions when choosing a spouse.)
The thing most people really don’t want to talk about: The best way to avoid out of wedlock births and the usually resulting ‘poverty’ is to abstain from sex until marriage. (And to exercise your thinking capabilities and not just your emotions when choosing a spouse.)
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The young people really, radically, underestimate the value of their opportunity if they look for the right person rather than easy sex. They are completely free to choose their wife or husband, without a sexually transmissible disease haunting the relationship, or an unexpected pregnancy forcing the marriage, or worst of all an unexpected pregnancy tempting them to murder their own child and a lifetime of guilt once they realize what they did. That freedom is so incredibly valuable because the right marriage is so incredibly valuable. As a guy in his forties who was a batchelor late into life I would say that your marriage is THE most important thing in your life with the exception of your relationship with God, and your marriage will effect that relationship as well I think. It is much more important than career, investments, your home, and even the family you are born into. The kids don’t realize what a huge thing they endanger (in reality, often give up) by partying and “hooking up” when they could be looking for the one thing that will determine the path of their life more than anything else. Wish I could just lecture every teenager and twenty something in the country on this. They give up the most important thing in the world for them (getting the most important relationship in their lives right) for one of the least important things in the world (a roll in the hay). The problem is that they think they will settle down at some point, without consequences. They don’t realize how quick life comes at them, how much damage one bad or unlucky decision can do, and how important that one woman or man is when they meet the “right” person. I know a lot of women that I went to school with, no kids, great career, empty lives.