The crux is that in a muslim country it is impossible for a Christian not to live in dhimmitude. This is the character of this religion and has nothing to do with Turkey. Islam is agressive and intolerant. Therefore your suggestions (although they would be the best solutions of course) about equality are wishful and unrealistic thinking.
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American politicians had the same wrong idealistic premises like you when they once thought that they would be able to bring democracy into such countries like Iraq or Afghanistan in 2003. Simply impossible.
Personally I know lots of Turks and like them as reliable people.
Yes, the can be relied upon to deny the Armenian Genocide.