There are actually quite a few jobs in film making in NYC. You just have to be willing to fetch dry cleaning and coffee for a couple of years.
No doubt, but the number of jobs is far less than the pool of qualified applicants. This guy's unwillingness to do something, anything, while chasing the limited oppurtunities is what makes him a loser.
Of course, most of the people employed in these "gopher" jobs landed them because they knew somebody who knew somebody, not because they went to film school.
If this guy wants to be a film maker. He needs to be spending his days MAKING MOVIES!!! Yes, you start small, use your friends, upload them on youtube, claw your way into festivals, etc. You need to be hungry!!!
This guy clearly isn't. He expects one to fall into his lap while he sits at home doing absolutely nothing.
Can't say I blame his ambitious wife for dumping him.