Why do I get the impression that if the sexes were reversed in this story, you wouldn’t be defending the guy? Say one who dumped his first wife because she was wishy washy and unsatisfied with staying at home, because he was embarrassed to be seen with her by his boss? A man who then took her kid away and married a trophy wife with boutique hobbies. And then did his best to humiliate wife #1 in print as a “beta” wife.
Would you consider such a man harmless and just living his life as he wanted?