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In retrospect, I realized I had this preconceived idea of what a sexy, attractive man should be like. I imagined being married to, well, someone like me. Someone whose job sounds interesting to other people. Someone who walks out the door with a pressed shirt on, a leather briefcase, and a confident gait. Someone who wins bread. Does that make me a sexist? "I always felt embarrassed and guilty—you had all these ambitions for me that I felt like I wasn't living up to," Mark said to me after our divorce.

Her fantasy list is clearly missing one thing. It especially stands out as it is the top of my list: a man with a solid relationship with God and a value system that stems from that relationship. Where girlfriend is God in your life, your ideals, and your relationships?

So nobody was more surprised than I was when I went ahead and fell for another stay-at-home dad.

Another major question? Well if he was a stay at home dad when you met him, who pray tell was paying for this man and his child to live? The guberment? His ex-wife? His present wife he was separated from? Was he independently wealthy? If so, that is all that made him different from husband one is that he had money and didn't feel any pressure to prove himself that way. That money is probably what warmed up the sheets. I hate to think this man's ex-wife was paying his paycheck. Now that would be a real icer for me. The women is clearly attracted to men to be there for her. Own it lady. She doesn't take the time to explore HER motives and what compels her to these sort of men. It is all about her and serving her needs and how she feels. What does the child take from all of this?

Here's the difference, though: Jason knows what he wants—and it's not a corner office. He wants to have his afternoons free to hit the park with my daughter or paint or translate the writings of Pablo Neruda. There's nothing thwarted or self-pitying about him. When we're cooking dinner together on Friday nights in a kitchen fragrant with curry, or trying to drink coffee in bed on Sunday mornings while my daughter dances around us, I'm so attracted to him that it's all I can do not to rip his clothes off then and there.

I'm telling you she either found someone who is independently wealthy through family money or he is living off a paycheck from his ex-wife for taking care of the child. My guess is the former. She couldn't stand a man who was more into his work then her. So in the end it is all about sex? Hope for her sake that doesn't wear off. Then it will be on to husband numero three.