Exactly.
She has no respect for the sacrifices her ex-husband made so that she could have her career. I would suspect that it is a little hard to claw your way into the film industry when you are caring for a small child.
Sacrifices? What sacrifices? This guy didn't do anything! No cleaning, cooking, laundry, changing the baby's clothes, nothing. He was a freeloading bum who sat at home all day!
If he at least showed some ambition towards film-making, maybe she would have had a little more respect for him but he couldn't even do that! And I don't think it would have been that difficult for him to work on his "craft" while taking care of a child. Little children don't have to stay indoors all of the time.
It’s sad she was embarrassed because her husband wasn’t working and “only” stayed home and cared for their child. She should have been proud to say he was a Mr. Mom. If there were issues about chores etc then sit down and talk about why. My guess is he was depressed- she admittedly put work before family, was “mortified” that he wasn’t working (you can bet he knew that), so you have a vicious circle. She helped him feel like crap, and then wondered why he acted like someone who felt like crap.
The only reason hubby #2 is different is because it sounds like he’s an intellectual snob who doesn’t want to work, and isn’t shy about it. So she reads that as strength. Go figure.