If a person does not adhere to the belief statements of the church, the church has no commitment to accommodate.
I don't deny that. But being forced to withdraw the offer after having made that was their own fault. Everyone seems to want to blame the dead man's family for the screw up when it appears that the church is solely responsible for their embarassment. Nowhere does it appear that the family misled the church or lied about the man or covered anything up. They hid nothing. They claim that none of the pictures contained anything that might be considered sexual or overtly affectionate, and nobody has produced any pictures showing they were lying. So in the end the church made the offer, they then found out the man was homosexual. They're the ones who blew it.