It’s unfortunate that every rape victim seems to have “asked for it” in some people’s eyes. 78% of assaults are done by people the victim knows and acquaintance rape is probably the most underreported crime BECAUSE of attitudes like this. No means no. It doesn’t matter who was drinking or what she was wearing. She didn’t deserve to be assaulted. One day, it will be your daughter, wife, graddaughter or YOU and we’ll see your tune change then!
~~Walking away in disgust
How come you are assuming she said "No" and isn't simply suffering from "buyers remorse"; for lack of a better phrase? Whether you want to admit it, or not, it does happen; quite frequently.
This is not a judgment for or against the rape case; as at this point it is still a matter of he said/she said. You have to admit, though, refusing to answer questions, does not reflect well on her position.
As to it possibly being my wife/daughter one day, God forbid. I hope that they both have been instilled with values that make it so they do not put themselves into a position where the question can be in doubt. Women do bear responsibility for their own safety.
I can think that a young women is a complete dumb-a$$ for putting herself into a position where something like this is more likely to happen (drunk at a party, wearing clothes that leave little to the imagination, lewd behavior, etc), and still sympathize for what she has endured.
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Oddly enough, having rape wished on me or my loved ones does nothing to instill sympathy in me for someone who refused to testify after charging others with rape. Nice temper tantrum, though.
“She didn’t deserve to be assaulted. One day, it will be your daughter, wife, graddaughter or YOU and we’ll see your tune change then!
~~Walking away in disgust”
While walking away, remember Nifong.
This female had the opportunity to testify and refused. To me that equals “she probably did ask for it and regretted it later”.
Otherwise I can see no reason she would not testify.
Because "the investigation revealed inconsistencies in Hernandez's testimony," people are deducing that she got caught in a lie. If that's the case then they should force her to testify or else charge her for not cooperating.
There is another aspect to this, and it's regarding a soldier's duty. It's one thing to be a civilian and tolerate rapists in your midst. You can't do that in the Air Force. If she knows the men are guilty of something, then she owes it to the Air Force to testify against them.
"One day, it will be your daughter, wife, graddaughter or YOU and we’ll see your tune change then!”
Been there, done that.
BECAUSE I have a close relative who was a victim of rape, I’m not keen on women who make false charges of rape.
One of two things is possible in this case: the woman was truly raped; the woman is making a false allegation.
If she was truly raped, she truly has an obligation to herself and to other women to testify against her attackers. The process is difficult, and unfortunately, because those of us looking from the outside in can’t know a priori who is a real victim and who is a liar, the process must be adversarial, must protect the rights of the accused, and the charges must be sustained by evidence.
If she was truly raped, once having made formal allegations, she must continue through the process, or be compelled by the courts to do so.
If she wasn’t raped, then I don’t blame her, in a sense, for backing out. Certainly, the punishment that she’ll receive for backing out is less than the punishment she’d have received if she went to trial, testified falsely, and was then proven a liar under oath.
But if she wasn’t raped, and her charges are false, then frankly, my hope is that she is severely punished.
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Oddly enough, when an accuser later refuses to testify at the trial of her own supposed assailants, it usually means that she knows her testimony will be poked full of holes and shown to be fabricated. Truth stands in its own right, and vice versa.
however, it's best not to get into certain situations to begin with... i know many rapes are not because a woman got herself into an iffy situation... but many are--especially with young women... i know it doesn't mean it's not rape, but gosh... we do need to be careful about our choices... even if it's not the woman's fault, (and i'm talking about young women in general, not the person in this article... i know nothing about that situation) why take a chance at the possibility of being raped? to me, rape is just as bad a crime as murder...
I'd guess a lot of 'rapes' are actually next-day regret.
No does indeed mean no. But if both of them are drinking and nobody says 'no', then who raped whom?