My liberals-in-law are the same way. They don’t enforce any threat they make. The kids walk all over them. And now they claim their kids have “Aspbergers” and “ADHD” and other new psychological kid problems that are all the rage today.
Sometimes it seems like they enjoy bragging about all the problems of their children. It’s disgusting.
When I chided a relative’s child on some bratty behaviour, she looked at me with an eyeroll and said, “I’m OCD.” Not only has it become an excuse for the parents, it’s an excuse the kids readily pull out, too.
Odd how, when I was a kid, being made to cut a switch from a tree instantly cured a lot of these “diseases”. heheh
By the time she was an adolescent, she was nearly impossible to live with. They had to send her away to a distant state to live with a cousin with whom she got along to finish high school.
In the new high school, she met a drug-using young man, whom she eventually had a child with. They got married, had two more children. He is in and out of expensive drug rehab and holds laboring jobs sporadically.
She is now living back with my sister and her husband with the three children. They cannot get her through community college or beauty school, and neither does she hold a job for long. She takes a course now and then; she gets a retail job for awhile, and my 66-year-old sister watches the kids. My brother-in-law is 67, and I have no idea when he will be able to retire. They will never be free of the child my sister could not bear to discipline. What a mess.
hmmm...regarding ADHD and Asperger’s.
As we’re going through the testing period regarding one of our children (possible Asperger’s)...the attitude should not be “Let’s blame everything on the disorder” - although that’s easy to do, because much of what the children do can relate to the disorder.
The question should be “how do I reach this particular child and teach them to reach their potential even with their disorder?”
The interesting thing with Asperger’s is that they respond to a routine. And if a certain behavior automatically results in the same consequence (sitting in the chair, having a toy taken away) - the kids will learn.
Asperger kids are usually pretty smart.