I agree with you. But alot of teacher-bashing goes on without recognizing that often, parents DO want excuses for kids they DID indeed never bother to discipline. Both “parents” and “teachers” are human, often are the same thing, and are products of the same society.
Believe me, I am aware of how teachers/admin can make life hell for a kid - my nephew was 1 (although he IS “special” - but certainly not a “fidgety” type - more like a slug at school). I am aware how many just want to “make it stop” and put labels on them and hope for an easy fix. But part of the blame has to be put on parents. Not (nearly) all the kids are ADD, and parents likewise have to own up to that.
Of course, your teacher sounds a bit psycho. Which is a bit beyond the norm for most.
She wasn’t psycho - just a jealous B!#ch. She taught Language Arts, and my kid (plus a few others) were also taking a gifted class in Literature Analysis. The teacher hated the gifted teacher, resented his curriculum, and took it out on all his kids. She derided their use of “big” words, their superior writing skills that put the rest of her class and her so-calle d academic standards, to shame. I will never understand why the school thought the kids had to take the LA class when the gifted class would have been plenty.
In any case, yes, there are a lot of parents who have no understanding of discipline, which is why schools need to be free to discipline. But they’re not, so the only solution is to get the kids out of the environment.
In my case, and in many others I can name, that meant homeschooling.