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Pn the flip side )acknowledging that every situation is different), my family rallied to take care of my out-of-work youngest brother and his wife and daughter. Family-subsidized apartment, job with another family member on a construction job, a loaner car from another family member, free childcare so his wife could get a job, and a bit of extra cash to get by. All of this was supposed to be temporary -- "until they got on their feet again."

Instead of paying his contractor's insurance ($400), he took the money to buy a flatscreen tv.
His wife refused to work, and spent grocery money on waxing her "personal regions" and getting her nails done.
They let their car insurance and registration lapse.
Their child went without even the CHIP insurance.

It was not until we completely cut them off, let them get evicted, etc., that they actually started doing things for themselves -- complaining bitterly the whole time about the unfairness of it all, because they "needed" the help.