Spotted Owl,
Thanks for the cogent answer.
I was not trying to bait anyone. I have been through some trying situations myself.
My parents (now just my father) live with my son (13) and I.
My Mother went through two years of Alzheimer’s and broken hips etc until she passed last year.
For the last 6-8 months she was basically ‘gone’ and immobile. We had to carry her to the bathroom etc.
Just laying this out so y’all Will know I do have some idea of how hard it is to care for someone.
My mom had Alzheimer’s, and a bad hip, so I definitely know where you’re coming from. She had to be placed in a care facility, because I couldn’t manage her. She had a hip replacement, but the lazy PT dept. wouldn’t work with her, so she never walked unassisted again. In fact, when they saw me coming, they hid!
It is hard to care for someone. The young woman I was talking about, well her bank statements are sent to our house. She can’t handle money. She doesn’t, or wasn’t taught boundaries.