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Blond and Beautiful? What Really Makes a 'Trophy Wife' (Fred and Jeri Kehn Thompson)
ABC NEWS ^ | July 13, 2007 | EMILY FRIEDMAN

Posted on 07/14/2007 12:43:37 AM PDT by 2ndDivisionVet

"Stripper." "Bimbo." "Permanently tan."

These are just a few of the adjectives used in the media lately to describe Jeri Kehn Thompson.

She's the wife of likely Republican presidential candidate and former Tennessee Sen. Fred Thompson, and one of the latest women to have characteristics associated with "trophy wives."

Thompson joins the ranks of other notable women who have been referred to as trophy wives, like Donald Trump's ex-wife Marla Maples and the late Anna Nicole Smith.

But is she really a trophy wife? Though she's blond, beautiful and nearly 25 years younger than her husband, Kehn Thompson, a political media consultant who previously worked for the Senate Republican Conference and a prestigious Washington law firm, doesn't appear to fit the typical description.

Can a woman be so accomplished on her own and still be considered her husband's "trophy"?

ABCNEWS.com set out to figure out exactly what makes an ordinary wife into a trophy wife.

The Anatomy of a Trophy Wife

Some say it's youth and good looks, others argue smarts and success, and still others believe the formula for the ultimate trophy wife is a cocktail of beauty and intelligence.

Many believe the term is highly sexist and demeaning toward women, but others are certain some women would do just about anything to be crowned a trophy wife.

A 1989 article in Fortune magazine may have introduced the phrase, describing a trophy wife as a woman who is a "decade or two younger than her husband, sometimes several inches taller, beautiful, and very often accomplished."

A man who marries for the second and third time, the article explained, was likely looking for a partner who was a lot like his first wife -- just younger, more beautiful and successful enough to have her own career (but not so much so that she steals the spotlight).

But the meaning of the phrase has changed, some experts say, with more and more emphasis being placed on the success of the woman.

"The idea of the trophy wife has progressed so that men want a woman who has some social equality, and it's not a dominant-submissive relationship," said Anne Kingston, author of "The Meaning of Wife." "Increasingly, it's not simply the decoration that a truly accomplished man wants, but an equal."

But stereotypes still abound, and the superficial connotation associated with trophy wives is hard to avoid.

"When we talk about a trophy, it doesn't matter how successful a woman is. It comes down to the decorative aspect and the idea that she's a babe," said Kingston.

Smarts and Sex Appeal Are the Key Ingredients, Some Experts Say "The general conception of a trophy wife is that she knows how to wear expensive clothes, is good looking and can make chitchat at cocktail parties," said Raoul Felder, a celebrity divorce lawyer who has worked with so-called trophy wives. "A trophy by definition just hangs out there."

Is The Trophy Wife Label Sexist?

To some, the fact that there is no prevalent trophy husband stereotype for men makes the trophy wife label seem that much more unfair to women. And some consider it offensive that the term implies that the wife is an object who is bought, or won by a husband.

"The individual sees the wife as a highly desirable object to obtain, roughly equivalent to one's vacation house, one's expensive car and one's status possessions," said Michael Cunningham, a psychologist who specializes in physical attractiveness. "So to be labeled as a desirable object by definition means one has value. But one is not being complimented for one's passion or intelligence."

In fact, Kehn Thompson, who formerly worked as a spokeswoman for the Republican National Committee, has quite an impressive resume. She could not be reached for comment regarding her description as a trophy wife.

"People may not like Mrs. Thompson for whatever reasons, but she's an accomplished woman, and to call her a trophy wife is really sexist," said Paul Costello, former press secretary for Kitty Dukakis. "And it's really demeaning. No one would use those terms to a guy who was good looking and stylish. I find it really sexist."

Take It as a Compliment

Claims of sexism may abound, but at the end of the day, many women would be flattered to be considered a trophy wife, and those who are not may actually aspire to become one, according to Dr. Debbie Then, a social psychologist who specializes in women and appearance.

"Any woman who is deemed a trophy wife has sort of a feather in her cap, it's a compliment," said Then. "I think most of the women think it's flattering on some level. Because no matter what a woman does in her life, when the chips are down, women are all evaluated based on their appearance."

Smarts and Sex Appeal Are the Key Ingredients, Some Experts Say.

But there may be such a thing as being too beautiful, she said, and many women feel slighted when their beauty is the only thing people notice.

"There can be that double-edged sword that she can be too good looking for her own good," said Then. "It can take away from her other qualities, and people might see her as less professional."

Why the Men Are Smiling

Even if some women are pleased about the trophy wife label, men are likely even happier. Having an attractive wife, some say, cannot only make the husband feel more powerful, but may even make him appear more attractive to others.

"The concept of trophy wives is more focused on the man than the woman in the sense that he has gotten a trophy," said Dr. Lucia Gilbert, a professor at the department of educational psychology and the director of women's studies at the University of Texas-Austin. "He has been able to snag, in a sense, a spouse or a wife that other men are envious of.

And there's the radiated beauty effect, which proves that men who have attractive spouses are considered more popular, more attractive and more successful by other people, regardless of their own looks.

"An unattractive man or a reasonably attractive man will be elevated in the eyes of those around him if he's with an attractive woman," said Then. "And if she's a young beauty queen, even better. People think he must be fabulous to have attracted her."

So Does Mrs. Thompson Fit the Bill?

Whether Kehn Thompson really is a trophy wife may ultimately be up to her to decide. Depending on her perspective on the label, she may deem the trophy wife branding as an insult or a compliment.

Until she says otherwise, it's probably safe to assume that for now Kehn Thompson is OK with dropping the "trophy" moniker and just being a regular wife.


TOPICS: Culture/Society; Extended News; Politics/Elections; US: Tennessee
KEYWORDS: electionpresident; elections; fredthompson; gop; jerikehn; jerikehnthompson; republicans; sexism; trophywife
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To: 2ndDivisionVet
"Stripper." "Bimbo." "Permanently tan."

These are just a few of the adjectives used in the media lately to describe Jeri Kehn Thompson.

I'd like to see the sources on this.

61 posted on 07/14/2007 6:20:28 AM PDT by unixfox (The 13th Amendment Abolished Slavery, The 16th Amendment Reinstated It !)
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To: preacher

Ugh. They’re both creepy.


62 posted on 07/14/2007 6:44:57 AM PDT by ViLaLuz (2 Chronicles 7:14)
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To: GBA
I really feel sorry for Dennis Kucinich. His wife Elizabeth is 31 years younger, 6 feet tall and a natural red head, but here we are discussing Fred Thompson.

This is a perfect example of pond-scum democrats and the way they do their business.

Can't find anything on Fred?

Let's beat up on his wife and hope that this lame attack will somehow pay off.

63 posted on 07/14/2007 6:45:08 AM PDT by Recovering Hermit (There's another old saying Senator..."Don't piss down my back and tell me it's raining.")
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To: raybbr
Well, here's the author. It's easy to see her perspective in this.

Exactly. She is not likely to attract a successful, charming mate her own age.

When you look at Jeri Thompson, she is not THAT good looking for a 40 year old woman. Yes, she is above average in looks, and much better looking than the average wife of a man Fred's age, but not in the top 1% of attractive 40 year old women, or even the top 5%

64 posted on 07/14/2007 6:47:00 AM PDT by SauronOfMordor (Open Season rocks http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ymLJz3N8ayI)
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To: Dustbunny

I do watch TV and I have never seen a picture of Mrs. Thompson there, only here on FR.


65 posted on 07/14/2007 6:49:34 AM PDT by Ditter
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To: raybbr

It's Newman (Wayne Knight) in drag.

66 posted on 07/14/2007 7:02:51 AM PDT by KarlInOhio (May the heirs of Charles Martel and Jan Sobieski rise up again to defend Europe.)
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To: preacher

Which would you rather see in the White House, Fred and his pretty wife or our ex BJ president, bent willie, and his (wife ????) ankles klintoon?


67 posted on 07/14/2007 7:18:37 AM PDT by chiefqc
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To: Elsie

I’m not jealous. I’m happily married to a man my age and we do just fine together. My gripe isn’t really so much with men like Fred who think with their groins as it is with the young women who really are nothing more or less than Gold-Diggers. After all, you seldom see this age discrepancy in marriages between poor old men and young hotties.


68 posted on 07/14/2007 7:42:55 AM PDT by An American In Dairyland
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To: 2ndDivisionVet

They can’t “get him” with anything else, so they have to attack the beauty of his wife.

...titter...

pathetic


69 posted on 07/14/2007 7:44:17 AM PDT by bannie (The Good Guys cannot win when they're the only ones to play by the rules.)
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To: djf; Mom MD

Left it wide open for you, didn’t I?


70 posted on 07/14/2007 8:11:23 AM PDT by Past Your Eyes (Some people are too stupid to be ashamed.)
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To: chiefqc

All I did was post the picture.

I’m one of the biggest Fred boosters there is.


71 posted on 07/14/2007 8:41:01 AM PDT by preacher (A government which robs from Peter to pay Paul will always have the support of Paul.)
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To: MaxMax
I suspect major jealousy by the DemocRAT bearded women.

Not entirely bearded. Beards only grow out of their moles.

72 posted on 07/14/2007 9:39:45 AM PDT by Ole Okie
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To: 2ndDivisionVet

I bet most women, including Mrs. Thompson (and Lorrie Morgan), think of Fred as a trophy husband. Of course the MSM won’t mention that.


73 posted on 07/14/2007 9:54:41 AM PDT by pangaea6
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To: An American In Dairyland
I don't like the whole idea of young women marrying old wealthy men. I don't believe it is about love whether Larry King does it, Donald Trump did it, Tony Randall did it, or even Fred Astaire did it. I don't believe Anna Nicole Smith "just" loved 89 year old billionaire Marshall and didn't care a thing about his money. If anyone believes any of these other incredibly young women really "just" love these incredibly wealthy old men, I've got a bridge for sale. That includes the Thompson marriage and I wouldn't vote for Fred just based on knowing about his May/Decemeber marriage. If a man has no sense in his private life, how much sense can have anywhere else?

One: Fred's wife doesn't qualify for "young". She is over 40, that is NOT young, as a matter of fact 35 is middle aged so 40 is past middle age. Two: Who the he** are you to judge if someone is loved by another or not? Sure, there are very young women, such as Anna Nicole, that marry incredibly old men for their money but some marriages with a few years difference are done for love. Basing your decision to NOT vote for Fred on the fact his wife is 40 years old is just a tad stupid IMO, either that or you are a DU plant trying to stir up trouble.

This whole issue about Fred's wife is a non issue and just another example of the Liberal press trying to hurt a conservative candidate anyway they can.

74 posted on 07/14/2007 9:57:52 AM PDT by calex59
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To: An American In Dairyland

And what makes he has more money than she does?


75 posted on 07/14/2007 10:28:25 AM PDT by lolhelp
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To: Elsie

If you are asking what was he doing all those years in his personal life, the answer is “it is no one’s business, including you”


76 posted on 07/14/2007 10:38:37 AM PDT by lolhelp
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To: calex59
Well you just burst my bubble, I did not know 35 was middle aged, and here I am still waiting for middle aged at 70 years of age and missed it completely
77 posted on 07/14/2007 10:46:35 AM PDT by lolhelp
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To: lolhelp

Reality.


78 posted on 07/14/2007 3:33:20 PM PDT by An American In Dairyland
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To: 2ndDivisionVet
Jacqueline Kennedy was the ultimate Trophy Wife. She did pretty well for herself.

Someone out there is awful jealous to make an issue of this.

79 posted on 07/14/2007 4:31:07 PM PDT by pray4liberty (going to church doesn't make you a Christian any more than sitting in a garage makes you a car.)
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To: SauronOfMordor

“not that good looking for a 40-year-old woman.”

Oh yes, she is.

More pics, please ...


80 posted on 07/14/2007 4:32:53 PM PDT by California Patriot ("That's not Charley the Tuna out there. It's Jaws." -- Richard Nixon)
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