A good parent teachers their kid from Kindergarten on, that THEY are solely responsible for their education. Parents and teachers can assist, but ultimately it is up to them.
I think you are correct for most kids, but not for a special needs kid.
Kids just don’t know what is right for them, and it is up to us parents to make sure they are educated.
Kids don’t know what their weaknesses are. Heck, we had to take my daughter to a neuropsychologist to find out what was going on with her. Everyone agreed she had speech issues, but we knew something else was up with her.
Now, that we have the information it’s up to my husband and I to see that my daughter is educated the correct way.
My daughter cannot remember things she hears (less than 1% on auditory memory). We have to stay on top of her teachers to make sure they help her learn.
We’ll have to do the same thing when she is in college.
The big thing is just knowing if she is understanding or not. If she isn’t, then she may need extra help.