The gaystapo despises the ex-gays because their mere existence refutes the majority of the homosexual agenda.
All behavior can be learned.
Homosexual orientation is a label that means the unchangeable state of being homosexual.
It denies both God's created order -- "God made them male and female." (Genesis 1:26) It denies that heterosexuality is implicit in the make-up of being male and female and capable of complementing each other.
And it denies the act of redemption -- and the transforming power of Christ in the life of the believer.
It can but IMHO it can only be done through a relationship with God and deliverance from the spirit of homosexuality. Then it’s real. It’s one of the hardest sins to overcome however and it’s never easy for any of them to stop.