You’re missing the point.
Would you tell your teenager to not drink and drive or would you tell them to be sure to wear a seatbelt when they do drink and drive?
Why would you tell your teenager to be as safe as possible and not tell them to not engage in the unsafe activity in the first place?
Don’t get me wrong. I fully understand that many teenagers will engage in unsafe activities; however, when you start with the premise that they are going to do it anyway, then you’ve already lost.
They do what they will.
I have teenagers and from the start, when they reached the age to be taught, I taught them to save sex for marriage. I told my kids that they are NOT animals; they don’t HAVE to have sex and don’t allow anyone to pressure them into it. They know, according to God, that it is better for them to wait. Thankfully, here in Ohio, that was reinforced with the abstinence-based sex-ed they got in their school when they were younger (though, that won’t last much longer, thanks to our RAT Governor, listening to the “soft bigotry of low expectations” crowd!). I have always told them that they are intelligent kids and they are not SLAVES to their bodies but they are master of their bodies and of their passions. Once you let them know that you expect more from them and expect them NOT to act like everyone else, they usually won’t let you down.
To this day, both my kids, aged 19 (son) and 18 (daughter) are still waiting.
Do you mean I should expect my daughter to have the ability to control herself more than a dog in heat and if I assume she is no better than a dog in heat then she have already lost?
Does this apply to my sons too? Should I expect them to learn to master their hormones or should I tell them it isn't possible and they are doomed to fail?