I do not wish on her terrible guilt. I wish on her instructive and correctional guilt -- guilt that motivates a person to change. As for giving up a person she loves, please define love. Doing what is in the best interest of the child is how I would define love for the child. And anyway, you are creating some fiction here in that a proper conscience would have stopped her from getting herself a sperm donor in the first place.
Oh, and I agree completely that I am not a loving man because I am a woman.
You have it all figured out, don’t you? And your definitions are the only ones that matter, aren’t they?
I am surprised you are a woman.