Posted on 05/21/2007 7:35:35 PM PDT by JTN
Growing older has many drawbacks and one unalloyed pleasure: passing judgment on the younger generation. Lately, people have been scrutinizing the members of Generation Y and finding them deficient.
What's wrong with the kids? A recent article in The Wall Street Journal reported that because they have been told since infancy that they were special, they believe it and expect to keep hearing it. "Bosses, professors and mates are feeling the need to lavish praise on young adults, particularly twentysomethings, or else see them wither under an unfamiliar compliment deficit," it said.
To critics, this generation is an army of self-absorbed narcissists with a swollen sense of entitlement. In my house, I have tried to prevent this outcome by reminding my kids, "The world does not revolve around you. It revolves around me." But apparently some parents didn't dispense that wisdom.
Jean Twenge, an associate professor of psychology at San Diego State University, reports that college students increasingly agree with statements indicating oversized egos, such as "I am an important person." Marian Salzman, a senior vice president at the advertising agency JWT, told The Christian Science Monitor, "Gen-Y is the most difficult workforce I've ever encountered," because they "are so self-indulgent."
But before Gen Y-ers start to feel bad about themselves, they should know that worse things were said about their parents. Back in the 1960s and '70s, it was universal wisdom that the kids of that era suffered from too much coddling. Vice President Spiro Agnew blamed student unrest and other problems on "spoiled brats who never had a good spanking." Best-selling author Norman Vincent Peale, author of "The Power of Positive Thinking," complained about youngsters whose parents felt a duty to "satisfy their every desire."
It's a hoot to hear modern kids described as self-indulgent by the generation that created its own culture out of sex, drugs and rock 'n' roll. Talk about a sense of entitlement: When the baby boomers came along, they (we) got the voting age lowered for their benefit. They also demanded that the drinking age be lowered, and it was -- only to be raised once they were safely into adulthood. Narcissism? Not for nothing were boomers dubbed the "Me Generation."
Most of the grousing is just what every new crop of kids hears from its elders, who forget that when they were young, they were equally infuriating. People who came of age during the Great Depression and World War II are known as the "Greatest Generation," but their parents didn't call them that when they were going through puberty. "Bye Bye Birdie," the musical that asked the question, "What's the matter with kids these days?" debuted during the Eisenhower administration.
The young people we accuse of being hopelessly self-satisfied are the same ones who have been told they had to score high on the SAT, get straight A's and cure cancer just to get into a decent college. Far from being hothouse flowers who wilt under pressure, they've coped with high expectations and intense competition.
This year, Harvard accepted only 9 percent of undergraduate applicants, the lowest figure in its history, down from 18 percent in 1983. The same trend is evident at other selective schools.
You would think the epidemic of narcissism would translate into selfish, destructive conduct. But on most counts, today's youngsters comport themselves more responsibly than Mom and Dad did at their age.
In 1977, 29 percent of high-school seniors smoked cigarettes daily. By 2006, only 12 percent did. The number of high-school seniors who regularly use illicit drugs declined by 43 percent during that period, while the number who regularly consume alcohol dropped by more than a third.
Over the last quarter-century, the juvenile arrest rate has fallen as well. Teenage girls are far less likely today than before to get pregnant or to have abortions.
Maybe all that self-esteem has led modern youngsters to the conclusion that their lives and bodies are far too valuable to risk on reckless behavior. Maybe when they hold a high opinion of themselves, it's because they've earned it through diligence and self-restraint.
From all objective indicators, this generation is doing just fine. And if all they need to keep doing it is a steady supply of praise, I say give it to them.
People will be voting in 2008 who were not even alive when the Berlin Wall came down.
Scary indeed.
I’m 42 and my kids are 12 and 3.
I’m a Baby Boomer and my youngest child is 10.
My husband and I are baby boomers - We have a 20 year old and a 17 year old. The baby boomer generation spans 15 years - lots of room there for different ages of kids. That being said, we are both towards the tail end of that generation.
True story. I toured the local university stadium and the guide told us that the biggest donor was given seats closest to the 50 yard line which was on the far left of the box seating(250 seats). After the first game, the donor’s wife demanded to be moved farther from the 50 yard line because “people can’t see me down there”.
Fear not. When your generation gets good jobs and starts making a few bucks that attitude will change. They’ll figure out that the Dems consider them the taxable “rich” and they’ll switch to Republicans. That’s what happens to each generation—they grow up, have kids, get a mortgage, and start voting to protect what they’ve worked for. Which is why the Dems have to constantly work to create a new underclass (illegals) or barring that, a crisis de jour (global warming) to maintain power.
I won't be able to say that for two more months.
I started late...my first child was born when I was 33. She'll be 20 in July, and I have two boys, 18 and 5 (that's right, five!).
I don't feel my age, and I sure don't recognize the gray haired dude I see in the mirror.
That has not been my experience with today's youts.
she currently intends to join the military when she finishes high school and become a mechanic. Look out, world
That is outstanding. This obviously has a lot to do with how well you parent. Your daughter giving herself to her country selflessly is a gift. You should and know that you are proud. Good job raising a nice girl!!!!
This year, Harvard accepted only 9 percent of undergraduate applicants, the lowest figure in its history, down from 18 percent in 1983. The same trend is evident at other selective schools
The author seems to think that this is because the schools have become more selective. Possibly, but it is also possible (and more likely) that more of the students applying these days are so poorly educated in grade school that they don't meet admission requirements that are probably lower than they used to be. In other words, the schools aren't expecting more from the kids, the kids are offering less - swindled by a liberal education system and society that has told them all that they're the greatest thing since sliced bread, even when they are complete ignoramouses.
In 1977, 29 percent of high-school seniors smoked cigarettes daily. By 2006, only 12 percent did. The number of high-school seniors who regularly use illicit drugs declined by 43 percent during that period, while the number who regularly consume alcohol dropped by more than a third. Over the last quarter-century, the juvenile arrest rate has fallen as well. Teenage girls are far less likely today than before to get pregnant or to have abortions.
Again, these all might be due to more responsible kids, better decision-making, etc. Then again, what was the relative cost of cigarettes in 1977? A lot of kids today can't afford to be regular smokers, so it may not be that they're choosing not to, but that they are less able to. Besides, where can they smoke without being harassed constantly? Had the kids of the 70's been subjected to the expense and harrasment that smokers are today, I suspect a lot less of them would have smoked too. Ditto for illegal drugs. And as far as teenage pregnancy and abortions... well, I suppose they learned something from Bill Clinton.
I'm not saying that today's kids are better or worse than any others, just that this writer's analysis of the statistics he cites is sketchy. Correlation is not causation and all that.
Thanks! She may change her mind in the next couple of years (or decide to go to college and ROTC and become an officer) but I think fixing engines for your country is a good plan.
I am on the cusp of the boomers....born two months shy of that classification.
My children are 39 and 40...so I don’t see this being off base at all.
They, and the subsequent generations, are the product of a culture of entitlement and government dependence given to us by "The Greatest Generation" - the New Deal.
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