2- Only parents should spank, and 10 is way too old for it.
3- Many spankers enjoy a sexual aspect, which makes them pseudo-pedophiles. And don't think that the child isn't instinctively aware of this... often consciously too.
I have a 14 yr old, grounding does not work, restrictions do not work. The day I told him I would bring the house down around him, really got his attention, pronto. I do not tolerate lying, period. Fortunately for him, I did not have to do it, because he is bigger than I am. Since grounding & restrictions do not work, what do you suggest? I have considered grass drills, but DSS would surely be on their way.
What the hell? Where do you get this stuff, Opra?
You really ought to lay off the dime store psychology books. Or are you implying that parents who spank are closet pedophiles? Gimme a break.
At some point menaingful discipline almost always takes on a physical form. Used sparingly, spanking is an effective means of establishing boundaries which otherwise would be ignored.
It is not a source of pleasure for the one administering the punishment.
It is not necessary for all children, but many.
I'm a great-grandpa.
I have seen what works and what doesn't, and most parents who have never spanked their child don't have to tell me. Better a swat on the butt now than prison later.
(Great-)Grandma would argue that no child is too old to spank--and none of the 'kids' push that--at any age.
Not to quibble, but I think the proper term would be crypto-pedophiles.