Your point is well taken re letting the states decide on issues that represent the peoples of that state.
Yet whether the states decide or the feds decide...no one has yet addressed...IF abortion becomes illegal in one or all states...How is punishment meted out. That is NEVER discussed and so becomes Hypocritical because its easy to make something ‘illegal” if only some of the participants involved are jailed.
It’s never debated *because* Roe v Wade makes it impossible to have such a debate.
As long a Roe stands the debate will always starts and ends with Roe. I agree with you that all you concerns you raised needs to be discussed, but that’s precisely why Roe must be overturned. We will never have a meaningful public discourse on this subject until Roe is reversed.