I don't think Indian (or other South Asian) men have a problem getting hitched. The problem is with Oriental (i.e. yellow-skinned) men. Indian men get hitched back home because that's what's expected of them. They could equally find Indian women to marry in the US on their own, but are far more traditional than Oriental men. So they obey their parents.
How do you figure that Indians are far more traditional than Orientals? The same way you do in the Mid East. Just how often do you see people dressed in native costume in the Mid East and India? Very often. And how often in the Far East? Just about never. They dress just like Westerners, except perhaps a little less casually.
Romantic love is simply not part of the Indian tradition. It isn't part of the Oriental tradition either, but has been absorbed from the West along with other Western customs like monogamous marriage and Western dress. India has done a much better job of preserving its age-old traditions. Which is why things like arranged marriages continue to be a fact of Indian life.
I don’t disagree with anything you say, the author said that Indian men were the hardest to match.
For whatever reason, arranged marriages don’t seem quite a common among other Asians.
Romantic love is simply not part of the Indian tradition. ... India has done a much better job of preserving its age-old traditions. Which is why things like arranged marriages continue to be a fact of Indian life.
Arranged marriages seem to 'work' better than 'love' marriages.
I have a theory about this:
In traditional culture, premarital sex was very rare and heavily frowned upon. Therefore it was very probable that a person's first sexual encounter was with their new spouse.
Now, a well known psychological phenomena kicks in: imprinting. Both partners imprint on each other as sexual partners. The first and only partners they have known. Throw in the Kama Sutra and drive that imprinting home with a couple hundred positions and techniques, and the bond is very strong!
Effective divorce rate: Near zero.
Contrast that with our 'modern' non-traditional 'values' boink, anything anywhere, anytime any in any number. The imprinting is hyper blurred. Small wonder an American can't settle down to one partner.
Effective divorce rate: 2/3rds...