The trouble with childhood abuse, even for people who survive it, it the need to reinvent yourself.
And further, THE trap is the seemingly unending hope that somehow the parent(s) will stop the verbal and psychological games and abuse, which never happens. Very few people understand the arena of psychological abuse. I hope to publish my book on the subject one day.
I agree. In the course of my graduate work on U.S. law vs. marriage, I read the works of Alice Miller on the topic of childhood abuse. I highly recommend them.