Take one for the team, no thanks.
Unless the woman was raped, she and another man entered into a physical contract to create a child. Let the man who entered that contract pay for the child.
My cousin had 4 children when he was married. She then divorced him letting him know that all four were fathered by another man. He is still paying for those children and will never have any children of his own. He didn’t step up, he was shackled down. It was a wrong done to him that will not go away after the last child support check is cashed.
It is not whining, it is a social injustice.
By your reasoning, to create more real men, the courts should randomly assign babies from single moms, and let men work two jobs for 18 years supporting them. Yep, sounds like a great idea to me.
I didn’t say that the real father shouldn’t financially provide for the child. In fact, in a follow up post, I said he should contribute to the child’s financial support.
I did say that when a personal father-child relationship has been established, someone is going to take a hit in this situation. I think it’s better that the adult man takes the hit, rather than the child.
So when a child knows a man as ‘daddy,’ even if he isn’t the real father, I think the best thing to do - out of admittedly bad choices - is for him to continue that role.
As for your interpretation about my reasoning, you’re once again remarkably wrong. Those men didn’t have the personal relationship as husband and father when the child is born. Your ‘reasoning,’ to be fair, is probably best at home on a place like FR - you know, where the conventional wisdom is often so divorced from the real 3-D world that it crosses well into ‘fantasyland.’
The courts require that the “father” pay child support, but they do not require that the mother use that money for the child; nor do the courts require an accounting from her.