>>Given the choice between a child taking the hit, and the adult taking the hit, I say
>>‘hit the adult.’ Every option has problems, so that’s the least bad option I can think of,
>>in the totality of the situation.
Since you are so enamored of the child not taking the “Hit” I say you should step up to the plate and take one for the team. You don’t want to? Why?
This is ridiculous how about doing this:
1. IF Bio dad has never been “Dad” to the kid, why saddle him with the money problem?
2. If the Dad has been involved, and is not biodad the court should let him of on condition of continued involvement.
3. If Mom won’t give up the biodad, put her in jail for fraud and let the kid stay with nonbiodad.
4. If Mom gives up the biodad and it’s confirmed by DNA, then he’s on the hook for both the child support, and payback for the nonbiodad’s outlay. (serves him right for fishing in another guy’s pond, serves her right that now her infidelity is a matter of public record.)
The kid winds up in a better situation in each of these scenarios.
Because the personal relationship isn't the only factor, and I never suggested it should be. The biodad is responsible for the child because he conceived the child.
2. If the Dad has been involved, and is not biodad the court should let him of on condition of continued involvement.
It's not either/or - the personal involvement and some financial support are both important.
3. If Mom won’t give up the biodad, put her in jail for fraud and let the kid stay with nonbiodad.
She isn't a criminal nor should she be. All she did was have sex with a man who wasn't her husband. That isn't, nor should be, a criminal matter.
4. If Mom gives up the biodad and it’s confirmed by DNA, then he’s on the hook for both the child support, and payback for the nonbiodad’s outlay. (serves him right for fishing in another guy’s pond, serves her right that now her infidelity is a matter of public record.)
That might work, I'm open to the husband paying some of the child support but not all of it in most cases. I think the biodad shold pay, also. Makes sense that the husband can sue for the biodad's portion of the past financial support for the child.