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I did say that when a personal father-child relationship has been established, someone is going to take a hit in this situation. I think it’s better that the adult man takes the hit, rather than the child. So when a child knows a man as ‘daddy,’ even if he isn’t the real father, I think the best thing to do - out of admittedly bad choices - is for him to continue that role.

Hitman, you've hit it right on the proverbial "nail's head".
I was just about to make the same statement, based on the last paragraph of the story and you stole my thunder!

In any case, based on your statements, you're one hell of a REAL father! I would like to believe, I am at the same level with you!

danmar to HitmanLV: In any case, based on your statements, you're one hell of a REAL father! I would like to believe, I am at the same level with you!

Oh, the irony. HitmanLV, you ain't my daddy!

Hitman ain't no daddy. He's a childless middle-aged single guy, claims to be a lawyer but doesn't practice (if you're familiar with that resume in the wacky world of the internet).

I’m just a man who tries to see things clearly and fairly, even if it’s not a self serving analysis. Thank you. I have no children yet but very much want to be a father someday. And I will do it. I take the role of husband and father very seriously.

That being said, sometimes crap comes down. No excuses. No whining about my rights. It’s a situation where either an adult has to take the hit, or a child. No-brainer - turn it up a notch and be a man, and be the child’s father. He or she already knows you as ‘daddy,’ anyway, and given the set of bad options, take the sacrifice.

Please don’t hold me up as any kind of standard. I just strive to know right from wrong and value doing the right thing, even if it means absorbing a wrong thing now and again.

Life isn’t fair, and sometimes there are no good options. I honestly didn’t expect many freeper males (I don’t call them men) to see it my way. Lots of talk about taking charge, kicking arse, rugged individualism and no excuse making is a lot of talk. What we see here many times, unfortunately, is just the flip side of the same coin that motivates many liberals.

That is, self centerdness (adult males actually thinking a situation like this is about them, when it’s about a child or children), pettiness, greed, selfishness and an undue fixation with what is ‘theirs.’

No wonder conservatism is in such sorry shape these days. It’s advocates just talk a nice game, but they are just fearful, small people.

So when a child knows a man as ‘daddy,’ even if he isn’t the real father, I think the best thing to do - out of admittedly bad choices - is for him to continue that role.

Hitman, you've hit it right on the proverbial "nail's head". I was just about to make the same statement, based on the last paragraph of the story and you stole my thunder!

And I think both of you are missing the basic point. I think most here would hope that the man would want to continue a loving relationship he had built with the child. The argument is that the government should not be able to force him to do so if he chooses not to do so, in the case where paternity can be disproven and the deceived male can show that he was unaware he was not the child's father...

Funny, I thought that opposing government interference into private matters and expecting a person to be responsible for his actions (but not requiring him to be responsible for the actions of others) were conservative positions. Silly me! /s