[sarasmom]

“And maybe I agree with you - I don’t like pretenses either. But I do think it’s desirable that he continue to be part of the child’s life. That doesn’t inexorably mean the ‘pretending’ you suggested.”

It also doesn’t mean the force of law should be unfairly applied to a man, or to the child.

And as far as it being desirable, Hell No, it is absolutely NOT desirable.
I made the the ultimately unfortunate decision that the extended paternal family of my child be allowed into her life as her birthright, and trusted her biological “family” to continue to be loving human beings to one of their own.

I would advise anyone in my former position from doing the same.

[HitmanLV]

It also doesn’t mean the force of law should be unfairly applied to a man, or to the child.

It's done all the time.