Sorry to differ with you sir but the opinions of others most certainly do matter, unless one thinks oneself wiser than all others.
And I tell you true, women see a never-married man past 30, never mind 50, the first thing they want to know is why he was passed over by everyone for 10 years, never mind 30.
What did they all figure out, that isn’t stamped on his scalp? Where’s he been all this time? Prison? Gay bars? Mental hospital? In the basement of his parents’ house, playing with his collection of toy tractors?
Like it or not, this is what goes through what a woman is pleased to call her mind, at the encounter with a confirmed bachelor.
In our culture, the prevailing opinion is that normal people do well to marry. When they don’t, it’s reasonable to wonder if maybe they’re NOT normal.
You’re stuck in The Matrix, my friend. Playing their game, instead of your own.
I am 50, never married. Where I have been, is clear to any woman I encounter, as I was busy building multiple careers.
What you say is confined to the ugly men, the fat men, and the losers, for whom no explanation is necessary.
Every woman I meet assumes that she is going to be the one special person who will change me into relationship material.
It generally takes them about a month to determine that I like my life just the way it is, and they move on in search of easier prey.