[derllak]

It sounds to me as if they BOTH made this decision together.
I think John is doing the best thing he can for his family right now....to keep going. Is he supposed to drop out of life and sit around waiting for his wife to die? She could live for years! I wouldn't want someone putting their life on hold for me if I were terminally ill. It's not a healthy thing to do. As for spending quality time with her and the children, that should be done by all of us, whether we face a terminal illness or not. I think they made the right choice. I wish them both happiness.

[Coldwater Creek]

When your mate/parent is terminally ill, lives are put on hold automatically. Perhaps, you have been fortunate enough not to have been told that your spouse of many years has only a short time to live. I have not been that lucky. Our children are grown and they are devastated and want to spend as much time as possible with their dad.

Those children need the love and presence of both parents at this time.

And, BTW, people with stage four cancer do not live long lives, a few months or a year at most.

[bvw]

Is he supposed to drop out of life and sit around waiting for his wife to die?

Dear derllak,

That *is* what life is about. Caring for the sick is life itself. As is raising the children.

[greccogirl]

When you get stage four cancer, get back to us.