My ex had an affair with my nephew.
There's no way I could work it out.
Ok, so did you go out and find another bad apple? if so then a woman who married you after that would really have to do a background check if she had any self-respect. (seriously - my husband's aunt is in this very situation and she did not do much checking...we are all very concerned, hopefully it will be for no good reason) Another factor would be were there kids from the first marriage that should not have been subjected to the emotional risks of another romance (and possible breakup)? Those are details that obviously we're not going to learn. But three times? I mean, even Rush Limbaugh would make me leery now, much as I enjoy listening to him. He obviously isn't a good judge of character when it comes to women.
I think shaggy eel might have something to say on this one.
Still the divorce argument is a straw man. It factors in, if it is something he can't seem to learn from, but is not the primary criteria. Why is that so hard to understand?
BTW it's not like an affair 'just happens'as the post I was replying to said -- it grows out of an unhealthy relationship in the first place. the recommendation to 'grow up and work it out' applies to both parties equally. (and yes, at some times one will apply it more than the other, and vice versa - sometimes totally by one party and not the other, in which case, the one party *should* have been able to see that quality in the other, if they weren't blinded by something else).
And yes, if I was divorced I would blame myself at *least* for being fooled into picking someone worth divorcing and having wasted my time. Fool me once, shame on you... fool me twice... well...