I was one of those naysayers who thought that good parenting solved problems like that, or if we only allowed our boys to act like boys they'd have an outlet for their energy.
I was WRONG. Somebody has to be at the far end of the spectrum. Right? I mean everyone gets depressed at some point, but we're not all labelled depressed. However, there are those people at the very far end of the spectrum who are so depressed they have to be hospitalized or take medications. There are some people at the far end of "this" spectrum for whom medication is a great help. The problem is that too many people in our society now view a large segment of kids as having a problem, instead of just acting like normal kids.
Unfortunately there are FAR too many people, including on this forum, who will refuse to EVER say those 3 simple words.
Bless you for your work with your children, (adopted or not, they are YOUR children) they are going to be wonderful adults because of their parents.
The problem is that too many people in our society now view a large segment of kids as having a problem, instead of just acting like normal kids.
What a mouthful you say there. So many people don't want to be around kids, even their own, that children have no idea how to behave in mixed (agewise) company. I grew up surrounded by adults and thus learned how to behave, so did my husband, and that is how our daughter is being raised. She's no angel, by any stretch of the imagination, but we are never embarrassed by taking her out in public.